How can I convince my mom to get cancer treatment?
She has stage 4 metastic breast cancer. She HAS options for treatment, she's just refusing them. She hasn't even tried anything yet! We just found out she has cancer... She's refusing to operate, and we need to act fast because she's already in such a late stage of cancer. I dont think she fully understands how much pain she would be in, if she DOESNT go through ANY kind of treatment for this. She just wants to be alone in her house that's hours away from her family, in a town where she doesnt know anyone. She wont let us go to her doctors appointments with her, she just wants to "handle this her way." And she's drinking, and alcohol ISNT good for people with cancer. Any and all suggestions are welcome, please dont be flip in your answers, this is my mother we're talking about.
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I've heard of people having good resulte using Rife technology. You can get a machine for about $2000. She can treat at home. I don't know if it will work at this late stage but it's non-invasive and she can do it many hours a day. Feel free to email me for more info.
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I can understand your mom so well. I went thru the same thing when I got my diagnosis. I didn't want to be disfigured, I didn't want to go thru the hell that chemotherapy is, and I didn't want to cost my family all the money it runs. I too decided to die rather than go thru all that. It's called clinical depression, and unless you get her some psychiatric help, she isn't going to go thru with any treatment and she will die. My sons had me committed, under a 72 hour psychatric evaluation that they got a court order for. The result being, I got the help I needed, and I got the treatment I needed and I am alive today. Hope this helps.
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Sounds like she has given up and is ready to go-- Make sure she understands how much she means to you, and how you need her around. You cannot force anyone to accept treatment, ordinarily. Some have tried going to Court , getting the patient declared incompetent, and making them get treatment. That may take more time than she has, and does not often work. Maybe if you could find a survivor from some support group - been there , done that, she will listen.
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She really sounds depressed. Does she have a friend she is really close to that can talk with her? She may need just a little time to come to terms with all of this.
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Your mother needs some help, both for what seems like depression and for her cancer, and sooner rather than later. If you are a minor, talk to a family friend or another close adult, because they have more power than you do. I don't really know what to advise, because you can't force her to get treatment. If there is someone knowledgeable whom you trust, you should talk to them. Please don't wait on this!
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just talk to her and tell her how much she means to you and you just want the best for her and get that through her head. just support her 110%.
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first off she will suffer a lot of pain in treatment and if the person dosent have enough fight in them the treatments could kill them faster not a lot of people understand how much pain there is either way you go i have cml a type of lukemia and i know how sick and down and lifeless i was on treatment so understand where your mom is comming from and is the doctors told her either way she has very little time why go threw that kinda ordeal just be there for her when she comes around and needs to talk that day will come please dont keep on her just ask her about her feelings and try to support anything she decides no matter how much it hurts you
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Just keep talkin gto her abou tit til she can't take it anymore. Cry, beg, do whatever you have to do for hours a day...I wish you luck.
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i am sorry to hear this about your mother..you didnt say her age? we have heard so many bad things about chemo and radiation treatments..like loosing your hair..getting sick..now there are many things to give patients to keep them from being so sick..loosing a breast in not an easy thing..i did 27 years ago..they can give aggressive chemo treatments..radiation..and remove it..but she needs to have the will to fight this. please dont let her give up..there is help and always hope that the out come will be a good one..
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